Before you start a new relationship, you should know your potential partners and yourself. Always bear in mind the fact that you will spend more time and energy working on self-development if you make the right romantic choice. Thus, you won’t struggle to appear the way your partner wants. So, instead of playing a game of enticing a partner, focus on these principles and you will enter a new relationship with the right partner.
Understand Yourself Emotionally and Sexually
If you don’t take time to understand yourself both sexually and emotionally, you will enter a relationship being emotionally dependent. It’s also possible that you will have unrealistic hopes that your partner will understand you and know the best way to ensure your happiness. So, to avoid the fantasy of assuming that your partner will perceive who you are intuitively, understand yourself and communicate your sexual and emotional side directly.
Believe What Your Partner Believes and Says About Themselves
It’s easy to tend to rationalize the poor behavior of someone that you are attracted to. But if someone lets you down or disrespects you, take this as an indication of who they are. If someone tries to rationalize the mistreatment or even dismiss it, take it seriously. That’s because it indicates that they might not be the right match for you.
Avoid ‘Sextimacy’
Sextimacy refers to a working cycle that a person uses to get emotional intimacy. If you get into a relationship with the hope that sexual relationship will lead to a committed or emotionally intimate relationship, stop and desist. Generally, if a relationship starts with sex instead of emotional intimacy, it will most likely fail. If you get into such a relationship, you will spend more time working and hoping that your partner will change when you could be growing yourself.
Separate Yourself from Parents
This is not easy. Some adults allow parents to continue meddling with their emotional affairs. Paying more attention to parents psychologically will siphon off the energy that you could put into your romantic relationship. Therefore, try as much as possible to separate yourself from your parents psychologically when starting a new relationship. What’s more, don’t get into a new relationship with the hope that your partner will take care of you like your parents.
Embrace the New You
Many people think that to start a new relationship, they must work on self-improvement first. Unfortunately, doing this can mean being in arbitrary exile. That’s where your feel out of touch and sad. When you embrace the ‘working on self’ notion, enlightenment will elude you while isolation will compound your misery. Therefore, focus on working on self-improvement through development of greater sexual and emotional self-awareness. Remember that entering a new relationship will enable you to know yourself better.
Generally, every relationship has a unique dating experience. It provides in-the-moment information regarding your weaknesses, strengths and preferences. If you don’t start a new relationship with a new perspective, you will be stuck. So, allow your brain to exercise its ability to grow and adapt when getting into a new relationship.
